Showing posts with label papa. Show all posts
Showing posts with label papa. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

On the Trail of Hemmingway



Key West was my first introduction to the legacy of Earnest Hemmingway. His famous six-toed cats and the walkway to his writing tree house kept me in suspended animation. That was long before I decided to focus my attention on writing and creating stories of my own for others to enjoy



That was a long time ago.



But it was Cuba that gave me a new insight into the man and his passions. It solidified the image and the legend of Papa as he was affectionately known.  Wandering the narrow cobble-stone alleys and walkways of old town, Havana brought back a plethora of sights and sounds that Hemmingway must have embraced and embellished when he was around.





Rumors abound about the Hemmingway of old and his escapades in the Hotel Ambos Mundos  in Old Town Havana. The lobby is adorned with large photographs of Papa when he hung around the lobby, mixing stories with other ex-pats in town and eyeing the local scenery.





Mojito

So as I sat in one of the old leather chairs that Hemmingway supposedly sat in and listened to the jazz combo playing something from the forties I couldn’t help but imagine another world in which he lived and loved and grew his legend. I let myself ask what, if anything, I shared with that genius with a tortured soul. He was a man obsessed with his own image and his place in literary history. I just want to write.

Despite his wonderful writings, Hemmingway was a tortured writer and a conflicted human being. His father and brother both committed suicide and he followed suit. Hemmingway represented an old fashioned vision of what it meant to be a man. I think it was this narrow focus and blind determination that caused him so many of his internal conflicts.

I don’t think a man should be judged by the size of his gun barrel or his capacity to get stinking drunk. I don’t think the number of wives a man acquires or outside marital interests mark his greatness as a man.

I’m guessing near the end of his life, Hemmingway felt a tremendous insecurity at the thought of his sinking ability to write something great. It was almost as if He was doomed by the same passion, focus, determination and blind faith that lead him to greatness in the first place. Whatever balance that might have existed in his life had dissipated by then.

Hemmingway solidified his place in literary history but at a terrible price by my Midwestern standards. He had four wives, numerous liaisons and a serious drinking problem. In the end, he made the literary grade while I’m still plugging away. But I’ve got my health, a solid relationship and great kids. Probably not much of a comparison but I like where I’m at. I’ll still climb mountains, ride bikes and do other physical things but nothing in comparison to Hemmingway.



In the end, that’s OK. He did it his way even to the end. I’m in control as he was and I’ll do it until I can’t any longer…my own way. Good for both of us.

Monday, June 11, 2012

The Care and Feeding of Grandchildren


So what am I talking about here? I guess to do for them what that
past generation wasn’t able or interested in doing for me. To give
them a leg up on this wonderful opportunistic world of ours.

I’m not going to raise them. That’s not my responsibility. I know
Brian and Melanie and their respective spouses can do a great job
at that. My job, my responsibility, and my pleasure will be to simply
add benefit to their already rich lives.

I want to feed them a broad menu of experiences and opportunities.

Of course, there will be the obligatory biking, frisbee, T-ball, soccer, softball,
gymnastics, Go Fish, Left, Right, Center, and eventually Chess.

But I want to take a giant step beyond the norm.

Like cooking and baking with Nana and other culinary explorations. A zillion
crafts of every conceivable form. Extra-curricular school work with Nana and Papa,
garage-sales with Nana, toeing the Pacific with Papa, paddleboard and body-surfing, hiking in the mountains of Colorado and California, trail running, bouldering in Joshua Tree, feeling the bite of Lake Superior in Springtime, birding in our backyard, and so
many more as yet unimagined experiences.
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I want them to become desert rats, surf charmers, ski bums, Northwood’s explorers,
rock climbers, trail runners, mountain bikers, road warriors, museum meanders, Costco diners, play goers, zoo explorers, and a plethora of other unique monikers they can wear with pride, not the least of which might be an americanized version of dharma brats.

Fortunately and yet unfortunately, my grandchildren weren’t born hungry. So I want to
impress upon them a philosophy of hard work and dedication to cause. Just as their parents and grandparents did before them.

I want to ignite a fire in their bellies that that drives them to excel at anything and every-thing they attempt to do. To be the very best that they can be and every other cliché we’ve all heard. I can’t do it for them. Their parents can’t do it for them. But perhaps together we can instill in their computer-like brains our own philosophy of hard work and a focus on education.

They need to understand that humility is a virtue. To remain low-key and let their actions
speak louder than their parent’s praise. Actions do speak louder than words.

It’ll be a challenge when the rents aren’t there. Brian has already perfected the routine: “Say, what are you doing for the next week?” Melanie is working on it. Montreal looks promising. Pretty soon they’ll team up to leave town and we’ll have all five grand-children to house, feed, and teach…if only for a brief period of time.

Maybe I can document ‘life with the grandkids’ as I did when I created a travel docu-mentary for Brian on his semester around the world or Melanie’s study abroad in Ireland. Something tangible they can hold on to even as their childhood memories start to fade and teenage attitudes begin to fill that void.

Whether it’s ‘Sweetpea and the Gang’ or any other ‘Tales of the Five’ I hope I can tell
stories around these five youngsters.

Children need to know that they are loved. These five unique human beings truly are and I am so blessed to be able to call them my grandchildren.