“So
what’s with this nostalgic rearview mirror look back at life?” my wife asks me
frequently. I respond defensively that it’s an important part of my current
writing stage. Sharon finds it a lot of hooey. Go figure!
The
reason Sharon and I have been happily married for over forty-six years is
simply because eighty percent of the time we go in her direction. Not only is
it easier that way; quite honestly I don’t care. Now Sharon would argue that
figure is about twenty-five percent short of what it should be. But that’s
another blog entirely.
To
continue with that mathematical analysis, fifteen percent of the time Sharon
and I are in total agreement on the most important issues in our lives; raising
our children, finances, etc. Five percent of the time there is no agreement and
no compromise between us. We have simply learned to live with our rock-solid
five-percent differences. One such discussion point is my ‘living in the past.’
Sharon
is adamant that one should not dwell on the past.” Let the memories fall where
they may and move on with your life,” She will argue. I feel quite the
opposite. I believe that if your feet are firmly planted in ‘today’ you can go
back and realistically evaluate your past for what it really was.
I
would argue that I’m not stuck on the past as much as I’m exploring new
territories by examin-ing old experiences, relationships, events and other phenomena
that impacted my life for a lifetime. One argument I hear occasionally is to
just focus on the future because ‘isn’t that where it’s at?’ Maybe but I think
I can do both or all three.
In
my world, I am moving forward by recapturing my past in books and plays and
movies and songs. I am also claiming a place in the present and peering forward
for a taste of the future.
Mywestern novels were born in the back pew of the St. Louis Church chapel during
daily mass in grade school. They were enhanced by black and white images on the
big screen of the Gem Theater on West Seventh Street in Saint Paul. They are a
salute to an old grainy black and white John Wayne and John Ford images of
Americana. They are the embodiment of a youthful imagination held captive by
the excitement and thrills of riding horseback on a Saturday after-noon.
‘Lovein the A Shau’ is about recapturing the confusion and excitement of growing up
in the sixties and time spent in the military. It is a semi-autobiographical
journey back in time of youthful exuberance and fond hopes for the future.
‘Debris;the trilogy’ is a reflection of life in Palm Springs on ‘the other side.’ It is
about capturing the many facades of this palace of smoke and mirrors. It is the
surrounding mountains and rough-hewn individuals who traverse its summits and
canyons and plateaus.
‘Followthe Cobbler’ is a mind-game set to words. It’s an adventure around the world
created in lieu of that tramp steamer I never got to sail around the world.
‘ApartmentManagement’ reflects my life as a landlord and the lessons learned therein.
So
in the end I won’t apologize for a focus on the past when my feet are firmly
planted in the present and my head is facing forward. I’ll keep moving in many
directions even as I let my eyes drift to that rearview mirror etched in my
brain. On that final sunset ride I want to be able to say that I lived my life
the way I wanted to. No apologies needed or given.